#And i your willing victim trial#
After Meiwes and the victim jointly attempted to eat the victim's severed penis, Meiwes killed his victim and proceeded to eat a large amount of his flesh. Life imprisonment (previously 8½ years' imprisonment)Īrmin Meiwes ( German: born 1 December 1961) is a German former computer repair technician who achieved international attention for killing and eating a voluntary victim in 2001, whom he had found via the Internet. My readers know they mean a lot to me.Rotenburg Cannibal, Der Metzgermeister (The Master Butcher)
I sincerely apologize if my response has upset readers but I hope, after reading this explanation, you will understand where I am coming from. I try my best to help those who need a listening ear and I am gravely sorry that this response has garnered a negative response. Also included is a list of relevant associations, with contact details, should anyone seek counseling. I genuinely care for my readers and over the years we have built a warm caring relationship, but I never underplay the seriousness of certain actions that could have negative consequences.Īt the end of each issue of the Dear Kelly column is this statement: “Teenage DOES NOT condone pre-marital sex. I was careful to downplay his point-of-view so as to spare her additional pain. I tried not to highlight what was going through the guy’s mind. I believe what hurt most was his casual dismissal of her but I was careful NOT to dwell on this so as not to cause her further pain. No one can be more sorry for this girl than I. There is no intention of “victim blaming”, just an attempt to point out that one’s actions have consequences and the sad fact, for me who really cares for everyone writing in, is that many young people today take risks and put themselves in precarious situations resulting in unhappy outcomes. I try to write in such a way as to stress that care must always be taken so as not to find oneself in a venerable position.
#And i your willing victim how to#
This point is important for the girl, as well as readers, so they get guidelines on how to behave so they don’t send the wrong signals. Again there is no blaming her.Īgain, I stated this because I know she was hurting but I have to put across the point that such behavior obviously gave the guy the wrong idea as he knew she knew, “there was not going to be adult supervision or even anyone else present”. I said she should have left but stated, “However, I believe you didn’t have a clue what he had in store for you”. When she arrived she says, “He grabbed me and kissed me”. I wanted everyone to know the danger of sending the wrong signals. “… He said his parents were going away and asked me to stay over, I said yes”. She honestly stated that the guy never lied to her. I focused on helping her see that her behavior sent the wrong message to the guy. I was focusing on the danger this girl put herself in. I pointed out the dangers of no one knowing where she was, even saying how worried her mum and the best friend would have been if they tried to phone her and got no response because she was under the influence of liquor and “he would not have answered it”.
My focus was for her, and our readers, to learn that certain actions have consequences and I wanted to stress, “… never lie to your parents”. Throughout my response I never blamed her. I have to adopt a particular tone so as to make sure the writer does not engage in such risky behavior again, and this is also aimed at warning readers of the consequences they face should they engage in risky behavior. My response takes into consideration our many readers who seek direction so they will not find themselves in a similar situation. I totally believe you had no idea that he had sex on his mind. I stated, “Your total naivety led you to believe you were having a sleepover with a best buddy. Please believe me when I say I am profoundly sorry for teenagers who are vulnerable and often “naïve” as I stressed, more than once, in my response in this case. I sincerely apologize if my response to “Raped after lying to mum” came across as harsh and “blaming the victim”. In response to the backlash, Kelly Chopard, the writer behind the feature, issued a statement through the magazine in which she said she did not intend to victim-blame, but rather "attempt to point out that one’s actions have consequences."